Welcome Men!

[Gregory]

I just wanted to welcome any men to this forum. The word abortion for a man sometimes seems distant and easy to disconnect from. Afterall we didn't have the physical abortion and it wasn't our body. We also live in a world that communicates to us that men are not affected by abortion and that we don't have a legal right to choose life for the child if our partner doesn't want to. The reality of the loss doesn't often sink in until it becomes real. "Real" begins when we connect with the role we could have had with our son or our daughter. The role of teaching our son the first time how to play baseball. That's when we seem to find "Real".

It's easy to escape the pain of this loss through addictions or elaborate defense mechanisms of survival that often were developed at a young age, the result of other pains in our life..often with our fathers. Eventually this type of survival to avoid pain no longer works. Men find that they need to heal too and share their story with others.

If you are hurting from the loss of your child due to abortion, there are many great resources out there to support you in your recovery and healing process, and I encourage you to contact me. I also encourage each of you to share and support one another so we as a whole can have a greater impact on our world. The world that finally needs to realize...that Men Do Hurt from the loss of their child.

[marycomm]

Thanks so much for your post, Greg! As an "accomplice" to an abortion many years ago I can relate to the role many fathers play in the abortion decision. My heart goes out to all the fathers that have lost a child/children to abortion.

The truth that abortion hurts everyone it touches is indeed also true for fathers, but we don't have to stop with acknowledging the pain, as Greg stated. There IS healing, restoration and peace. If any of you are fathers that have lost children to abortion (or if you know someone that has), posting here may be the first step you take in your healing process. You may do so anonymously if you wish, or contact Greg confidentially. Whatever you do, if your abortion has become "Real" to you, do something. You don't have to go through this alone!

Thanks again, Greg, for all you do for fathers and families affected by abortion. Godspeed, my friend!

Abundant blessings,
Mary

PS: Visit Greg's site at www.mistymtn.org.